Success Through Positive Affirmations

The longest distance between where you are now and the success you want in life is six inches.  Six inches is all you have to conquer in order to have every dream, goal and aspiration that you can imagine in your mind.   Half the distance of that little wooden ruler that you used all the way through grade school, while you weren’t slapping your friends on the hand with it, is the total distance that must be covered on your journey to success and the fortunes of your dreams.

Isn’t it interesting that people travel thousands of miles.  They literally travel all around the world in search of the “one thing” that will lead them to their own highest achievement. Some people risk life and limb to climb the highest mountains in the world to prove to themselves that they can do it.  Some prefer meditation with religious and spiritual thought leaders in the Far East to bring them enlightenment.  Some people just turn away in frustration and lose themselves in the day to day struggle and never become what they were uniquely created to be.

Well, the interesting news of the day is that the six inches that is so important to yours, mine, and everyone’s success is the six inches resting between their ears.  That bundle of gray matter laced with neurons and dendrites and pyramidal cells and synapses is literally the pathway to success.  It’s all tied up in the dopamine and norepinephrine and acetylcholine and endorphins which are continuously batting around and bouncing into each other that determine how high you go and how fast you get there.

How Can I Gain Success Using Positive Self Talk?

So how can you navigate that six inch trek which 95% of all people fail to tame and settle for mediocrity in their lives?  Well it all comes down to brain re-training.  You have the capacity to teach your brain to believe anything you want it to believe.  You can choose to make your brain lead you to your own personal success like an electromagnet can lift tons of metal once the electricity is turned on.  It’s all about what you feed your mind and how you condition is to feed information back to you in your life.

Henry Ford made the point this way:

“If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.”

So what are a few steps that you can take to get your brain on board with where you want to be?

1.  Determine a very clear picture of the goals that you want to achieve.  You must be specific.  This is one of the most critical elements of getting to what you want.  Studies have shown that the average person puts more time and attention into planning their annual vacation than they put into a concrete plan for the results of their one opportunity at creating a fantastic life.

2.  Write personal affirmations that state the achievement of these goals in the present tense.  In other words, if you want to earn $100,000 per year and you are not there yet, you would not say “I want to earn $100,000 per year.”  You would say “I’m so thankful that I’m earning $100,000 per year and am able to have the time freedom and stress-free life that comes with this income level.”  It’s also important to write affirmations for the different areas of your life.  It’s not all about money, but let’s face it, I’ve had it both ways and it’s easier having money than not.

3. Dedicate yourself to reciting these affirmations on a daily basis every morning and every night.  You may think it gets repetitive and boring, but your brain doesn’t know the difference.  The reason most people fail is that they let outside influences program their brain for failure.  Most of the outside information that you are fed on a daily basis is negative in nature and shows you why other people succeed and why you can’t.  You must overpower those voices that are speaking directly to your one great brain with the positive statements of achievement that will dictate your life’s success.

Success in selling really revolves around doing simple activities consistently over time.

Many people get caught up in the time consuming, success draining world of invention.  They try to figure out better ways to get their product or service message across to potential customers and they forget about the simple actions that they must engage in on a daily basis to achieve the success that they are striving for.

Darren Hardy, publisher of Success Magazine, recently released a great book on this very subject.  The Compound

Effect talks about little actions done day after day result in big wins over time.  He tells the story about the Tortoise and the Hare, which my kids and other children all over the world love, but shares this tale in a completely different level of understanding that applies to your success journey.  You see, Darren shares that just in the way that the tortoise plods along daily toward his goal of winning the race, your daily completion of simple, but profitable, tasks virtually guarantee that you will get to your goal.  In fact, the Hare, with all of his boasting and starting and stopping, actually loses the race in the end.  Apparently, according to Darren Hardy and proven through this fable, the slow, steady march of simple, repeatable, profitable processes are what lead to winning in the end.

Tip #1 Continually Educate Yourself

I read a lot of books.  In fact, my library of books is somewhere between 800 and 1,000 and the vast majority of that library deals with personal growth, leadership and success.  I like to reflect on the concepts in these books, most of which remind me of the same truths written in different ways.  The last three books that I’ve read are Crush It!: Why Now is the Time to Cash in on Your Passion by Gary Vaynerchuk, The Tipping Point by Malcolm Gladwell and Sway: The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior by Ori and Rom Brafman.  All three are great reads and I’ve written short reviews of each one on my blog.

Tip #2  Surround Yourself With Positive People

You’ve heard the saying “Birds of a feather flock together”, right?  Well, in terms of you getting to the most important goals in your life, this saying could not be more true.  If you have dreams and aspirations that you want to accomplish, you’ll have to check the people and information sources that you are spending your time around to make sure that they are people who are also looking to go in the same direction that you are.  Unfortunately your friends and family might not be very motivated to achieve more in their lives.  They might be happy right where they are.  Worse, they might not want you to move to far ahead of them and will subconsciously pull you back by distracting you from your worthwhile goals and dreams.

Now I’m not suggesting that you should end all of your relationships with people who aren’t the strivers in life.  In fact, some of my best friends have no interest in the type of business building activities that I involve myself in.  That’s ok.  Differences are what make our lives and our culture richer.  However, if I am interacting with a person who takes away from my self-confidence by ridiculing my business activities or intentions, then I must remove that type of person from interacting with me in order to stay focused and committed to my goals.

A few ways to surround yourself with like-minded people are to look for group associations locally that you can start to attend and develop new friendships and relationships around what you are interested in.  One of the new and growing tools that I like is MeetUp.com.  This is a service that allows people to post local, in-person groups that are based on interest categories.  If you’re interested in internet marketing, look for a group that is focused on that and join it.  Attend the meetings and get to know others in the group.  These associations will push you forward in your quest for success.

Another way to surround yourself with positive and uplifting people is to attend industry or company events.  If you’re involved in a network marketing company or a real estate or mortgage company, there are numerous company-sponsored and industry related events.  When I was actively building my mortgage business, I attended a Keller Williams event because Gary Keller was speaking. I didn’t work for Keller Williams, and I wasn’t a real estate agent, but I took the opportunity to learn from Mr. Keller’s success and surround myself with the other people in the local area who were looking to grow their business and their life in a positive direction.

Take Imperfect Action

This is really where the rubber meets the road.  Too many people try to get everything lined up just perfectly before they go out and get busy.  Many times that effort and energy that is put into planning and perfecting your business is wasted because of a fatal flaw in your business plan that wasn’t apparent before you started talking with clients and getting proof of your concept out in the market.

A popular saying by entrepreneurial experts is “Ready, FIRE, Aim!”  That simple saying reminds us to move forward on our goals with urgency.  Once you get your ideas out in front of people, they will give you feedback which can help to make minor adjustments along the way.  Those minor course corrections are what will lead you to the realization of your dreams and goals.  It’s never perfect and you’ll never make everyone happy.  You will, however, make many people happy when you bless them with your ideas, products, and solutions that will improve their lives.

I was reading the “What I’ve Learned” section of my Esquire magazine the other day and enjoying what Larry King had to say.  His answers were based on what he’d learned over his career interviewing the most interesting and successful people in the world on his show, Larry King Live.

There is one item that stuck out to me and is so simple to implement that it is most often overlooked.  This single thing is quite likely responsible for more failures in sales and general business than any other thing in history.  The first few words that were given to Larry were “I never learned…..”.  Larry King finished that sentence by saying “I never learned anything while I was talking.”

Wow.  Simple and profound.  How often have we seen a glimmer of interest in our prospect or customer and proceeded to launch right in to an in depth explanation of the details?

We’ve all heard it before.  “God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason.”  Listen twice as much and talk half a much.  If I think back to my own sales experience, I laugh.  There are so many times that I know I talked my customer right out of the sale.  I gave them too many things to think about.  I brought up objections for them that they may never had brought up on their own.  I learned over time to clarify through asking questions and listening closely for clues as to whether they were ready to buy.

As I’ve spent countless hours in sales presentations training other sales professionals on the art of closing the sale, I’ve noticed this tendency to be the single most important and glaring deficiency of all.  It becomes almost painful watching a presentation go awry due to an overzealous presenter who wants to show all of the whosits and whatsits of whatever it is that they are selling.  When we leave the presentation and go over the details, I constantly reiterate the same thing.

Here’s the answer to the $64,000 question that I posed in the title of this article:

If the customer shows interest in your product or service, ask them what they like best about it and sit and listen to them.  Let them talk themselves into the sale.  Most motivated buyers of a product or service wouldn’t be out looking for it in the marketplace if they didn’t have an intention to buy.  If you have a quality product or service that matches what they are looking for, they’ll likely buy from you…..unless they feel like they’re getting “sold”.   You avoid them feeling that way and achieve the same end result by finding out their interest and then letting them expand on those interests until they have obviously convinced themselves that they should buy and buy right now!